I may have written about this before.
Humans are very good at reading other people. At least scientists say we are, and we're eager to believe it.
For years I was sure that when I grinned, it was rather like Hugh Grant's smile: bashful and attractive, expressing good feelings.
Then I went to therapy. Early on my therapist blew away my illusions: my smile came across as unpleasantly supercilious. I came to realize that underlying my smile was nervous tension about how the social interaction. At least some of the therapy group were unable identify the insecurity beneath the expression.
Bottom line: I don't know how common it is to have such a disjunction between what a person is feeling and what people perceive.
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